A word I seem to be seeing more and more these days is 'hurtful'. No-one seems to get angry at a spouse's unreasonable behaviour or an insult any more; instead they describe remarks and behaviour as 'hurtful' - the supermodel Naomi Campbell, for instance, who found an advert comparing her to a chocolate bar 'insulting and hurtful' (see here).
I checked on Google NGram, which is a facility which looks for words and phrases in a huge historical corpus of digitised books. You can see how usage of a word has changed over a time period. The data for 'hurtful' show that use of the word 'hurtful' had been steadily declining since the year 1800 (in books, anyway), bottoming out between 1940 and 1980. Since then, however, hurtful has been getting steadily more popular and the graph is going up again.